Stanley Okorie, a prominent figure in Nollywood for his contributions as a soundtrack composer and singer, recently opened up about the tumultuous experiences that marked his early marriages. These revelations came to light during a candid discussion with media personality Chude Jideonwo.
Reflecting on his first marriage, Okorie disclosed that it ended in divorce primarily due to his own shortcomings. He acknowledged that he was not the attentive husband his wife needed, admitting, “I wasn’t a caring husband… I was very insensitive.” His dedication to his music career often led him to prioritize studio time over personal relationships. “I thought providing for the family was enough,” he reflected, “but sometimes, the first rule of love is presence.”
Okorie’s ex-wife, he revealed, was not driven by material desires. “My first wife wasn’t after money,” he stated. “Sometimes, when I gave her money, I’d return to find the money on the table.” This gesture underscored her need for emotional connection and presence, which Okorie struggled to fulfill amidst his demanding career. The strain of balancing work and marriage took its toll, and he recognized his immaturity at the time of their union.
“When she finally decided she couldn’t take it anymore,” Okorie recalled, “I didn’t argue. Instead of trying to reconcile, I immersed myself in my music, singing stupid songs to console myself.” This coping mechanism, while therapeutic to some extent, also served as a diversion from facing his marital issues directly.
Following his first divorce, Okorie experienced a second marriage that also ended prematurely. Tragedy struck as he lost both his wife and son, events that deeply impacted him. “Some of the songs I sing were my escape from my sad reality,” he admitted, highlighting how music became both a solace and a distraction during his times of grief. However, he recognized that avoiding confronting his problems directly only prolonged his healing process.
“Nowadays, I’m in a better place,” Okorie affirmed, reflecting on his current marriage and family life. “I’m happily married with kids, doing well, and still recording music.” Despite the trials of his past, he has found stability and contentment in his personal life, indicating a journey of growth and maturity from the tumultuous earlier years.
Okorie’s story serves as a poignant reminder of the complexities of balancing career success with personal relationships. His frank reflections underscore the importance of presence and emotional connection in sustaining marital bonds. Through his experiences, he has learned valuable lessons about maturity, communication, and prioritizing what truly matters in life.
As he continues to contribute to Nigeria’s vibrant entertainment industry, Stanley Okorie’s journey remains a testament to resilience and personal evolution. His music, once a refuge from pain, now resonates with a deeper understanding of life’s challenges and the enduring power of love and family.
